The Father and Son Holy Spirit Island Trip

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My son Joel on a kayaking expedition in Baja

                                  The Father and  Son Holy Spirit Island Trip                                                                                           Steve Dresselhaus               

“Girls are like potato chips. Once you get started it is really, really hard to stop.” This may not be the best way to start out a father/son talk about boy-girl relationships; but for a shy dad and a not-always-communicative 14-year-old son, it did get the ball rolling.

While the discussion topic was not always easy,  the setting was unequaled. My son Joel and I were on a three-day circumnavigation by sea kayak  of Espiritu Santo (Holy Spirit) island off the coast of Baja California Sur in the southern reaches of Mexico’s Sea of Cortez. The purpose of the trip? Adventure and a chance to get away from it all and talk about all the things that a dad should talk about with  his son.

Espiritu Santo Island- West side

Espiritu Santo Island- West side

The island, sometimes called the Pearl of the Sea of Cortez, is a 12-mile-long, three-mile-wide desert island shaped much like a huge,  thick-bodied comb. One side of the island is a series of deeply indented, cliff-lined bays, each of which terminates in a perfect white sand beach. The other side, the eastern side of the island, is like the back of a comb, relatively straight, with no coves, bays or other protected inlets.  For a mariner, a windy day on the eastern side ranges from challenging to downright dangerous as it becomes a lee shore with  pounding waves relentlessly beating on mile after mile of unyielding rocks, cliffs and reefs. Woe to the sailor who finds himself in distress on that shore.

Our first day out was like a photo postcard. A gentle breeze cooled us as we paddled the 4.5 miles from the Baja mainland out to the southern tip of Espiritu Santo. The transparent blue water parted gently as our two fiberglass sea touring kayaks created V-shaped mini-wakes in the silky smooth water. The upturned bows of the kayaks nosed into the barely perceptible head wind. The occasional flying fish or diving sea bird let us know that we were not the last life forms on earth. Every so often a sports fishing boat would race past us on the near horizon in pursuit of dorado, marlin or tuna – but then silence again. The solitude and silence discovered while in  human-powered craft far from shore is a delight that needs to be experienced at least once in a lifetime.

Playa Despensa near the southern tip of Espiritu Santo Island.

Playa Despensa near the southern tip of Espiritu Santo Island.

Our crossing lasted a little under two hours. It was Joel’s first crossing of a deepwater channel and the farthest he had ever paddled off shore. In typical adolescent fashion, any emotional display for a job well done was masked with a feigned “Ho Hum.” We ducked into Playa Despensa, a horseshoe-shaped bay that is often used as the staging area for kayaking groups embarking on multi-day adventures. For us it was a time to open up the can of Pringles stuck in the bungee chords of Joel’s waterproof deck bag, get a drink, and stretch our legs. It was also a time to gaze at the  water, a multi-hued blue and green masterpiece highlighted by a white sand beach and a stratified red and pink layer-cake cliff opposite our landing site.

Isla Gallina

Isla Gallina

After a brief stop, we climbed back into the boats to begin the next leg, three hours of exploring coves, small islands and white sand beaches. Our next stop was Isla Gallina, or Chicken Island. Isla Gallina is a tiny red rock island with sheer cliffs running nearly all around it, denying even  the remotest  hope of a beach.  At its base, on the southern side of the 200-yard-long island, there is a small rock shelf about a foot above the water line at high tide. We put our boats up on the shelf, dug out our snorkeling gear, and jumped into the clear blue water. The island is a starfish paradise. Blue, purple, and red starfish were everywhere. Other starfish, including the chocolate chip star, (yes, it looks like it is covered with chocolate chips) were also abundant. Trumpet fish, trigger fish, parrot fish, sergeant majors and Cortez Angels filled the water like a two-page spread in National Geographic. A variety of brown, stringy,  twisted corals blanketed many of the white rocks, transforming them into the envy of any dredlocked Rastafarian.

Chilled, we exited the water. Joel climbed up a short cliff to the top of the island. He discovered the island to be one of those guano-frosted islands often seen on Animal Planet. It was a madhouse of angry birds threatening to run us off their island and away from their eggs, which were lying around the ground in hastily assembled nests of twigs and dried seaweed. The haphazard, unplanned nature of the nests evinced little pride in homemaking. As the angry birds shrieked and flapped overhead, I couldn’t help but think of some of the horror movies of yesteryear such as Alfred Hitchcock’s “The Birds.” I was glad to be wearing sunglasses, just in case.

View from our camp at Playa Mesteno

View from our camp at Playa Mesteno

Late in the afternoon we slowly paddled into Playa Mesteño, one of those long, narrow indentations that cuts deep into the island. The water in the bay was flat calm, the sand white and perfect, the beach deserted, clean and unspoiled. Our most visible companion was a large blue heron who stood on the shore waiting for…. whatever herons wait for on the beach. We set up camp, which consisted of breaking out the stove and throwing our sleeping bags onto the sand. The temperature was ideal and there were no bugs; a tent would have been superfluous and a waste of energy to set up.

I don’t believe in retributive karma, nor do I believe that good and evil are doled out in precise,  predestined allotments  to each person. However, the trip which up to now had been perfect took a turn for the worse, almost making me doubt my unbelief.   Our first cooked camp meal  became a cook’s nightmare. Though difficult to believe, I did the impossible:  I ruined a meal of “Hamburger Helper,”  although it wasn’t exactly my fault. Just after browning the ground beef, the stove started to act up and the heat it produced dwindled till it was barely enough to warm the water, much less boil the noodles to softness. The water refused to boil, the ground beef began to turn into a liverwurst-like pate, and the noodles remained  al dente  al maximus.  “Good job, Dad,” was the less-than-sincere praise heaped upon my culinary efforts. It did keep us alive.

The stove issue was one that had to be resolved, since Espiritu Santo has a strictly enforced no open fire rule owing to its status as a United Nations World Heritage area. I suspected that the white gasoline, purchased in a local hardware store, might be the culprit. The troubleshooters’ guide that came with the tiny camp stove seemed to corroborate my suspicions. I dismantled the stove and replaced the white gasoline jet with the one for kerosene, assuming that the finer orifice used by the white gasoline was clogged with gunk. That more than did the trick. The stove became a raging blowtorch, a welder’s fantasy, a micro Hell.  The stove became all or nothing.   For the rest of our three-day camping/kayaking trip, every cooked meal was  like an Oreo cookie: the outside hard, black and burned, with the inside raw and gooey. The fact that I am now writing this 24 hours after completing the trip indicates that my cooking, while a failure on nearly all counts, was not immediately fatal.

During the first night on the island, the wind picked up. The problem with wind on this island is that it makes the eastern side of the island a boiling cauldron of tumbled and confused water. After a burned but raw breakfast we began paddling, unsure of whether or not we could continue with our circumnavigation or if we would  be strong-armed by a power bigger than us and forced to retrace the previous day’s journey in the shelter of the island. We rounded the northern tip of the island and headed out into the exposed Sea of Cortez. The wind was strong, the waves high, around six feet, but there were no whitecaps. I assumed that the absence of whitecaps indicated that the waves were residual waves, having blown in from the north during the night–and that as the day progressed and warmed they would slowly die away. Wrong. All day long the waves followed us, causing the kayaks to pitch and yaw.  Like an unruly herd of sheep, whitecaps, called borreguitos (“little lambs”), began to appear and frolic around us. Sometimes the following seas would push us to the right, sometimes to the left. At times when a boat was on the crest of a wave, a gust of wind would spin the boat around nearly perpendicular to the wind. We were condemned to five hours of relentless, grueling, intense paddling. The wind never got any stronger, nor did it let up. It remained strong enough to keep the waves big and steep. The earlier lack of whitecaps had deceived me into thinking that the rough conditions were about to end.

I nervously watched Joel. This was his first ever big water paddling experience. I don’t think I have ever been prouder of him. He handled his boat well, stroking, counter stroking, high bracing, low bracing and braking against the waves for hours on end. Not once did he complain. His face showed quiet determination and resolve. No fear. We had two options: turn around and battle headwinds and advancing waves and then retreat back down the western side of the island, or keep going. A third option would have been to give up and let ourselves be dashed to bits against rocky cliffs; but since this trip was billed as a father/son outing to build our relationship and talk about things that dads are supposed to talk to their sons about, being dashed against the rocks didn’t seem an appropriate finale to the trip.

Every so often on the eastern side of the island, rocky headlands protrude.  At each rocky headland, none of which was large enough to offer protection from the wind and waves, the seas grew even more confused. Some waves would refract around the headland, coming at us from other directions. Other waves would reflect off the cliffs, hitting us from the opposite direction of the prevailing waves. Other waves would strike submerged rocky reefs and seem to leap up out of nowhere. Still other waves formed klapotis or jump waves caused by the face-to-face collision  of two waves traveling in opposite directions. Waves could and did come at us from all points of the compass. It was five hours of intense concentration without a pause for rest.

Playa Bonanza at dawn

Playa Bonanza at dawn

After a long, hard, and relentless paddle, we rounded the last rocky headland and entered the shelter of Playa Bonanza, a two-mile-long stretch of picture-perfect beach. Protected by a large headland at the northern end, the water inside the bay was calm, with only gentle wavelets lapping at the shore. Rest, peace, food: a great way to end a long struggle. The tension of the previous five hours melted into oblivion, leaving nothing but a wild memory, a healthy boost of self confidence for Joel, and a feeling of accomplishment for both of us. We made camp, once again  by simply throwing our sleeping bags onto the sand. Dinner was boxed macaroni and cheese. My blow torch stove,  my Hell in a handbag, did a remarkable job of boiling the water for the noodles.

After darkness had fallen, Joel and I lay on our sleeping bags gazing up at a moonless but incredibly star-crowded night sky. Only those who have been far from civilization in a desert or out at sea can truly appreciate the majestic beauty of the horizon to horizon clutter of uncountable stars.  There were so many stars it got me wondering if God is not some kind of hoarder.

Staring upward, we talked about a lot of things.  We talked about what it means to be a good man, based on the New Testament book of Titus, written by the Apostle Paul. Words of wisdom 2,000 years old still packing  a punch of truth, giving guidance for today, which if followed will help in marriage, work, relationships, enabling  the simple joy of good living.   My hope and prayer for Joel is that these words will guide his life, as in just a few short years he will be entering his own manhood. The words of the  Apostle Paul and my example: will they be enough?

Gazing up at the sky, I told Joel that I would not go to sleep until I had seen a shooting star and a satellite making its way across the night sky. Within two minutes I was free to go to sleep and within three, I was.

Dawn came with a beautiful sunrise over the Sea of Cortez.  I enjoyed  a pot of fresh coffee, brewed on Brimstone Bonnie, the stove from Hell.   My 14-year-old son  lay a few feet away still tucked inside his sleeping bag, his long uncombed hair a tangled, windblown, sea-salt-snarled mess above a still innocent face. Watching him sleep, I could see remnants of  a young child, a little boy, not yet needing to shave or behave like an adult, but no longer addicted to Legos or Pokemon. Wasn’t it just yesterday that we took him out of the hospital wrapped in a tiny blue bunny suit with ears? Fifteen hours earlier, battling the wind and waves, I had seen in his face the early evidence of manhood: determination, vision, survival, goals. Boy or man? He is in that intermediate stage right now, no longer a little boy, not yet a man. It is my job as his dad to help him make that transition successfully. God help me.

After an Oreo cookie-style  breakfast of scrambled eggs and a quick loading of the kayaks, we were on our way back home. A calm, four-hour paddle across the Canal San Lorenzo lay before us, with a gentle breeze to cool our way and only tiny waves. In only five hours we would be home in La Paz, and we would have a shower and a meal cooked slowly and properly on a stove, not blowtorched into charcoal by the rebellious camp stove from the underworld. And there would be a strengthened friendship between a dad and his son after an adventure well done.

Waiting for my wife to come and retrieve us and our kayaks, I noticed four young teenage girls walking past us, not once, not  twice, but at least eight times. It wasn’t me or the kayaks that had caught their eye. “Joel, did I ever tell you that girls are like potato chips?”





Steve Dresselhaus

My wife and I have been given a very special privilege.  We have the opportunity to go through every last thing we own, be it our Subaru Forester, an old coffeemaker, or a half-used note pad,  to determine if we are going to keep and transport it to our new home in Mexico,  donate it to a worthy cause,  or do our small part to take an Illinois landfill to its holding capacity.

In the process we are learning a lot about the middle-class American lifestyle, of which we have become active members.  Since I am a fairly pious Christian I have chosen not to use the words that immediately come to mind which describe what we are discovering about our middle-class life.    My second string of descriptors includes words like cluttered, overly busy, materialistic, paper polluted,  enslaving, junk filled, influenced by others, keeping up with the Joneses, dependent, peer pressured,  deceptive and non-trusting.   We are discovering that we have become possessed by our possessions to the point that they  guide and direct our lives and actions.  That which truly provides happiness–relationships and human interaction–has been shoved aside by acquiring and maintaining our stuff.  The more stuff we own the lonelier we become.  The more stuff we own the more we are owned by it.  Caring for what we own crowds people out of our lives.  Any culture necessitating scheduled play dates for children is on its death bed.  A culture which requires a couple weeks of lead time to schedule a night out with friends because people are so busy working to accumulate stuff and then investing time to maintain their stuff is a culture destined to disappear.  Culture and civilization are the cumulative organic results of ongoing human interaction.  When interaction ceases, there is no longer any common bond nor shared experiences; and everyone ends up “doing what is right in his or her own eyes,” which is an absolute guarantee of societal dysfunction and eventual cessation.

The bottom line is that our dependence on stuff is really evidence of not trusting God, in spite of our Bible readings, prayer, and worship songs.  In the perfect world created by God in the beginning and to which we will return at the reconciliation of all things, Adam and Eve had nothing but God, each other, nature and the shared  experience of living off of  what God abundantly provided through a clean and healthy environment.  A friend of mine, Peter Illyn, founder and president of Restoring Eden put out my all-time favorite  bumper sticker which humorously but not incorrectly states, “God’s original plan was to hang out in a garden with a couple of naked vegetarians.”   Relationship and trust were all the first couple had and all they needed.   This was God’s design.   It wasn’t until Eve took the first thing not needed that greed and the need to possess and accumulate took over and became one of the strongest human forces known.  From that day to this, our desire to possess has ruined the environment, isolated us from each other, and eroded our trust that God will care for us.  Ever since Eve launched the world on its march to destruction through the evil  act  of unnecessary consumption,  the only things we really own are the things we can control by getting rid of  them without grief.  If we grieve over their loss, we have to wonder who or what the real owner is.

Right now I am moving to another country.  The greatest stress related to the move? Our stuff.  Packing to protect it, budgeting to ship it, getting the legal documents to cross international borders with it, arranging for the transporters  to relocate it– it is a never-ending, sleep-depriving nightmare.   What do we really need?  What will be helpful?  What is actually harming us and our future ministry in Mexico?  Is “we might need that” sufficient grounds for keeping something, or is the proper declaration “I am using that” the way we should determine what to take and what to get rid of?  What about things that serve no purpose other than to generate warm fuzzy feelings?  Do we keep them?  Do we take a 20-year-old plaster-of-Paris hand print from our son’s  preschool vacation Bible school,  or do we make room for an extension cord which we will use but which has no sentimental value?  Does utilitarian take precedence over warm fuzzy?  Where do we draw the line?  When do we go overboard one way or the other?  We Christians justify our greed by saying “I am holding my stuff in an open hand.”  That is very easy to say when no one is trying to take anything from us.

I don’t have the answers yet and probably won’t in this lifetime.  But I am asking  myself the question.  At least I now know what I own and I am learning  what owns me because I have handled it all in the past three weeks and made a conscious decision about each thing, be it a 19-foot-long sea kayak or a misshapen paper clip.  I may sometimes  be wrong in my decisions; but at least I’m trying to show I trust God to provide by not hoarding a bunch of stuff.   We wealthy Americans are good at asking the WWJD question, which is usually a painless choice to do what is ultimately beneficial to us, but we may not even be asking the  question WWJK?  (What Would Jesus Keep?)  This is the real question, because it strikes to the heart of who our prime deity really is.